Being in relationship can be so difficult and also so exciting.

When I think about ‘relationship’ I think beyond romantic or intimate relationships, I think about family, friendships, work colleagues, the therapeutic relationship, etc.

Relationships are inherently complex, and sometimes tangled.

We are born into families and particular societies: someplace in our personal ancestry there’s a mother and a father, and a mother’s mother and a mother’s father and a father’s mother and a father’s father and so on. So, what you bring into a relationship in recent times is already loaded with your personal and inter-generational tapestry of relationships threaded across time, space and events.

Whether you work through your way of relating in individual therapy or couples counselling, the work is to find out what brought you to be relating in the ways that you do now, so that you may continue to thread your tapestry in different ways and with determined goals.

Relationships are inherently complex, but complex doesn’t have to mean the same as tangled.